Carrer Advice - Plan B

There's A Plan B - And 5 Steps Towards Making It Work

By
Relationship Advice Expert April Masini

Q: Dear April Masini,

I've been working on starting my own business, but I'm starting to see that it's just not going to work. The good news is, I have a plan B. The bad news is, I can't quite seem to let go of plan A enough to focus my attention on plan B. Do you have any advice on how I can make plan B work?

 Signed,

Planning For B

A:

Dear Planning For B, 

Sometimes moving on is the best thing to do, even if it is difficult.

5 steps to make plan B happen:

1. Let go of plan A. It didn't work out. It's dead. If you have any interest in reviving it, you won't be able to give your all to plan B. Think of them as wife number one and wife number two. If you have any interest lingering in wife number one, you're going to have a faulty marriage second time around. Bury plan A completely. Now. You can move on.

2. Take inventory. What went wrong the first time around. If you know more about yourself now, and you know where you failed on plan A, you're more able to avoid the traps that plan B may hold. And yes -- all plans are fallible, so know yourself inside and out, and know what it is you want to do this time -- and what it is you don't want to do.

3. Make your partner in marriage or your long-term commitment partner aware and in the loop on what it is you're doing. No surprises for your live-in lover. If you're going to be working different hours or having a different focus, you want your teammate on board.

4. Discipline. Making a plan work means using verbs in your life. You can't just want a plan to work. You have to make it work. Consistently.

5. Keep planning. Just because you're there doesn't mean you should stop planning. Enjoy your success and keep an eye on the horizon.

April Masini -- nicknamed "the new millennium's Dear Abby" by the media, is author of the best-selling books Date Out Of Your League and Think & Date Like A Man, the two (just released) step-by-step dating and relationship manuals, Ideas for a Fun Date and Romantic Date Ideas, and the critically acclaimed dating and relationship online magazine www.AskApril.com.

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