What A Women's Ability to Multitask Costs
By
Relationship Advice Expert April Masini
Q: Dear April Masini,
As a modern woman, I've become a multitasking queen. It's a vital ability in this modern life. But I've started applying my multitasking behavior to other things than just work, to my friends and my relationship. Will this end up with me marginalizing my relationships?
Sincerely,
Coordinating Carol
A:
Dear Coordinating Carol,
Multitasking is a form of coordination. Women are better multitaskers than men, in general, in the same way that some people are more coordinated than others. That said, if someone is great at golf or skiing, they don't do it 24/7, but women tend to multitask round the clock except for when they're sleeping -- if they're sleeping!
The beauty of multi-tasking women is that they're a great asset to any relationship -- whether it's a romantic relationship, a friendship, a business partnership, an employee-employer relationship or a family relationship. They have an asset to offer in their multitasking.
The problem with multitasking, however is not always noticed at first glance. Here are some of the drawbacks:
*By multitasking, you disallow others to pitch in. While it's great that you've got dinner, scraped knees and homework all under control, you don't allow your family to pitch in and help out when you can do it all. They don't get the experience of team work.
*In romantic relationships, men want to be the ones you look up to. They want to be irreplaceable. If you do it all, they're not who they want to be. Let them unscrew the tight jar lids and move things for you.
*There is self esteem to be had when your child sets the table or microwaves dinner one night because you're just too exhausted or busy. The thanks you heap on them, and the genuine respect you have for their help and capability, is worth millions. Let your child save the day -- even if it's just making dinner.
*Multi-tasking women forget to ask for help because they're so used to doing it all and doing it more easily, and often better, than other people. But asking for help is an important tool in a relationship and it's a good thing for women to model for their daughters. Sometimes doing it all isn't the smartest thing. Sometimes taking a nap is smarter.
April Masini -- nicknamed "the new millennium's Dear Abby" by the media, is author of the best-selling books Date Out Of Your League and Think & Date Like A Man, the two (just released) step-by-step dating and relationship manuals, Ideas for a Fun Date and Romantic Date Ideas,
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