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Advice on How to Be Realistic About Your Santa Photos

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Relationship Advice Expert April Masini

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Q: Dear April Masini,

The Christmas season is approaching again, and I'm shuddering at the idea of getting my kids to the mall to get photos on Santa's lap. My oldest is 7 and my little one is 3, and they are both nightmares when it comes to Santa. They want to go visit him, but once they get there, they either scream the entire time or refuse to smile for the camera.

It drives me nuts because I have absolutely no cute little Santa photos of my children. I have thrown all the past ones out because the kids have usually had tears rolling down their faces or just plain refused to sit with Santa that year. Outside of sedatives, do you have any tips for how I can get them to calm down and smile, so I can have the all-important Christmas photo from their childhood?

Signed,

Santa's Little Helper     

A:

Dear Santa's Little Helper, 

Photos have a lot to do with the owners of the photos — some people throw out any photos in which they don’t look good — or in which they don’t look the way the person wants to remember themselves or their loved ones. It sounds like you're in that camp, but I would recommend you consider saving even the most nightmarish Santa photos. (One day, your kids might find their hysterics quite funny.)

I suggest saving ALL pictures — even the ones you hate — put them in a box because they represent a time in your life that you may find valuable at a later point.

That said — when planning a Santa picture — you should have your child wear something that they're comfortable in. If you have the kind of child who sparkles when they put on fancy clothing, then by all means, get the sparkle in their eye by allowing them a fancy shirt and tie or dress. If you’ve got the kind of child who hates fancy clothes and only feels like themselves in jeans and a flannel shirt, then let them wear that. The idea is to get the great, natural shot of Santa.

If your child screams and cries — so what? It’s their experience. Get the shot and get out of there! There’s always next year. Besides, you’ll all laugh later when you remember how the photo session went.

If you’ve got a child who’s got a real fear of Santa or anyone in a costume, for God’s sakes, don’t force them to go into a scary situation just so you can get a picture of them with Santa. There are lots of alternative ways to get a holiday picture of your child — for instance, your child and a bunch of presents, your child and a lit Christmas tree or your child making Christmas cookies.

Santa’s great — but he’s not the whole shebang at Christmas. Your family is.

 

April Masini -- nicknamed "the new millennium's Dear Abby" by the media, is author of the best-selling books Date Out Of Your League and Think & Date Like A Man, the two (just released) step-by-step dating and relationship manuals, Ideas for a Fun Date and Romantic Date Ideas, and the critically acclaimed dating and relationship online magazine www.AskApril.com.

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