Divorce Advice

Tips On How To Survive Heart Break

10 Things You Need To Remember When Your Husband (or Wife) Leaves You …
1. I have worth. I am a decent hardworking person who tries to be kind and helpful. I had been a faithful supportive wife and done the best I could with my daughters in spite of some very difficult times. I had encouraged and supported my husband throughout 20 years, thinking it was my duty and what a good wife did.
2. My ex never had grown up to be responsible. His character and values allowed him to desert two beautiful girls so that he could do what he wanted to do.
3. I had been raised to think that ‘marriage is for better or worse’ never considering that in that relationship, one person can not make the commitment for another or rescue a marriage when one partner is not interested in saving it.
4. I had two movie reels in my head: one was the fun and good times of early marriage and family; the other of the real story of a man who was selfish with money and time and was unfaithful and irresponsible. He cared for himself to the exclusion of his family’s needs and responsibilities. I had to FORCE myself to change reels in order to be more objective about my situation.
5. Physical exercise (work? and walking etc.) helps reduce stress, especially being outside when possible.
6. Faking feeling OK, even forcing a smile strangely helps somewhat.
7. Making a gratitude list every morning for all blessings and thanking God for them and for being with me as He had always been, knowing that He had something better in mind for me.
8. Writing a daily journal, private and real. Telling my deepest concerns, describing my anger.
9. Practicing “one day at a time” and finding and trying to focus on the tiniest good thing that happened during that day.
10. Praying and asking God to help me accept His will in my life.