Relationships: You’re Over 40, Newly Divorced and Dating Again

If You’re Over 40…and Dating (again)

The playing field can seem really scary. You’re competing against 20 and 30 somethings that you think look so much better than you do, and are carefree when you’re shouldering the burden of divorce scars. Don’t even mention the idea of taking off your clothes with someone!

Don’t worry — follow these tips:

* Be your best self, but don’t lie about who you are. If you say you’re 45, then he’s going to expect someone over 45 — not a 25 year old.

* Every individual is different however…in general, younger men are in a different life place than you are, and much younger men are in a much different life place than you are. While dating younger men can be freeing and a great ego boost, before you get too invested emotionally, see if you’re both on the same page in terms of what you want in the long term. Short term dating is fine — as long as you are both in agreement about what you’re doing together.

* Take your time. Not every date is going to replace the relationship you just left. You’re going to have to play the field in order to find Mr. Right. If it’s been a while since you did that, adjust your expectations accordingly.