Living: Valentine’s Day Alone?

Nothing can make you feel less loved than being alone on the most lovey-dovey day and night of the year. But don’t worry — the truth is most people actually are either home alone or staying in with friends. And if you are alone, here are six great ways to get some loving:

1) DVD night with Chinese take in food. Choose some great home alone movies like Bridget Jones, the Sex and the City first, second, third or any other complete season, or Four Weddings and a Funeral, get out the moo shoo and the chopsticks and see how fast your fortune reads: you’ll have a great night!

2) Lonely Hearts Club No More. Invite five other single friends (an equal number of men and women) to go out to dinner. Why should lovers get all the good restaurant reservations? Make it a party.

3) Spa for one. Book yourself a spa night at a local day spa. Go for a manicure, pedicure, massage and a facial. Pamper yourself!

4) Phone date. Call a friend in another part of the country that you haven’t talked to in a long time, and drink wine while you chat and reminisce.

5) Book it! Buy a new book you’ve been dying to read and curl up on the sofa with a roaring fire, a glass of red wine or hot chocolate and your book.

6) Virtual flirting. Online dating makes sitting home alone on Valentine’s Day a virtual impossibility — or a literal virtual possibility — whether you’re chatting up a stranger on an online dating ite or going out to dinner with someone you just met online, there are now infinite possibilities for love. The old advice on places to meet single men and women are now exponential thanks to the Internet.

If you’re newly single, after a break up or a divorce, and you feel you have to go out to make an appearance, make sure your friends know you’re coming to their party by yourself, and that you’re a little unsettled about it, but you want to do it. They’ll surely take care of you and introduce you to others there solo. Who knows? You may not be solo for long. Before you do go out, though, it’s especially important to know you look great. Buy something new and sexy to celebrate your first Valentine’s Eve solo in a long time. Psych yourself up a little. Pretend you’re living in Paris, and going out alone is just another chic thing you do. Give yourself a mental image of who you want to be at the party. If you feel like a scared mouse, you’ll look like a scared mouse, and all you’ll attract is the cheese. If you get yourself in a good state of mind, and feel like this is a sexy adventure, you’ll look like you’re on a sexy adventure and you’ll attract others like yourself.