New Research Shows That Having Children Can Actually Makes You Less Happy In The Short Term.

You need a study to reach the conclusion that having children may make you less happy in the short term?!  Obviously, the scientists conducting this study didn’t have children!

Having children to make you happy — or expecting having children to make you happy — is a recipe for disaster!!

Of course children don’t make you happy in the short term. If a person had any idea how a child grows and how they’re raised they would know right off the bat that having and raising a child is no easy task. In fact it’s one that involves torture-like lifestyle techniques impressed on parents. Lack of sleep, constant crying, being responsible for someone who can’t walk, talk, use a toilet or make their own food - 24/7 — of course any normal person is going to realize that having this person with them FOR 18 YEARS is not going to make them happy in the short term.

People who have children really need to do their homework if they want any peace in their lives — the same way people who want to be in a relationship need to do their homework if they want to have peace in their lives. If you know what it is YOU want before you get into a relationship - whether it’s with a boyfriend, girlfriend, spouse or newborn — you will be a lot better off, and so will your partner (child, spouse, etc.)

All that said, having children is a wonderful experience for SOME people, who choose to have children because they feel it is the right thing to do — for THEM. They have to be committed to the process if they want to derive any peace, let alone happiness.

The same is true of any relationship — whether it’s with a person or a job, hobby or sport — not every part of a relationship — whether it’s a pianist learning to play the piano, a ball player learning to work up his cardio-vascular system or a girlfriend learning to tolerate and enjoy a man and intimacy — is going to be enjoyable or happy. Anyone who wants to be happy all the time, or thinks that being a parent or having children is going to make them happy in the short run or all the time, needs a reality check — not a study to read.