Divorce Advice For Women: How To Feel Better After A Break Up

Celebrating any change can be a great ritual and a way of making a transition from one way of life to another. Therefore, divorce parties can be wonderful steps in life. There are two pieces of advice I give:

1. Keep the tone positive. Do not resort to trashing an ex. In fact, trashing anyone is just negative energy that keeps you in a negative place and actually keeps you engaged with that person in a negative dynamic. And it’s so easy to do! Especially if the ex is the one who left. Focus on the idea that this is a way to start a new part of life. Give gifts that are things the divorced person has never had or done before — for example, a gift certificate to a pottery class or a bikini! Celebrate the breaking out of a shell and trying new things.

2. Allow for grieving. A divorce can feel like a death, and the reception after a funeral is a lot different from the party to celebrate a birthday or some other festive event. Remember that although you may be wanting to celebrate, the person divorcing will have feelings of regret, loss and sadness that need to be addressed in order for that person to heal. Rather than set the tone of a divorce party with streamers and balloons, consider a more intimate dinner party at a restaurant or home with movies screened and a mature base of friends and family as the guests.

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