Infidelity: An Affair Is The Runny Nose Of The Virus That Is The Primary Problem In Your Marriage.

Affairs are not a primary problem in a marriage. Hard as that may be to believe, the truth is that they’re a symptom. When you get a virus, one of your symptoms may be a runny nose. An affair is the runny nose of the virus that is the primary problem in your marriage.

The best way to prevent these primary problems in marriage that lead to affairs is twofold:

1. Know yourself and what you are capable of, not capable of, need and don’t need in a relationship, as well as your expectations.

2. Understand who you are marrying and what they are capable of, not capable of, need and don’t need in a relationship, as well as his or her expectations.

That said, most people don’t know all of that about themselves, and their partners, but the more you do know, the better shielded you’ll be from marital problems. In addition, people and circumstances do change, so sometimes, no matter how prepared you are, life has a funny way of moving around, leaving you surprised — and sometimes disappointed.

Check these items off and see how affair-proof your marriage is:

1. Division of labor. Sounds like a legal contract, but find out what you both expect from each other in terms of bringing in money, working outside of the house and inside of the house, and whether you can have a happy marriage with your ideas about how labor is going to be divided in your house.

2. Money. Know how much you need to live and how much you are capable of making (together), and see if you can have a stress-less, fruitful marriage given your differences and similarities here.

3. Sex. Who needs how much when and where? Are you sexually compatible? Attractive? Are your needs similar, and if not, are there compromises to be made?

4. Children. Do you want them? How will you raise them? Discrepancies here can be deal breakers.

5. Health. I don’t just mean do you have cancer or not, when I talk about health. I mean, are you willing to take care of yourself and keep yourself healthy and attractive enough to keep your spouse interested and involved? Letting yourself go is not just your business. It affects your relationship, and it’s not fair to your spouse. Being healthy and your commitment to your own health and appearance matter — and can be the key to warding off affairs in your marriage.