Relationship Advice - Dating Tips - What Women Need To Know About Men

We all know that there are inborn differences between men and women because scientists have studied and documented the myriad differences. What women seem to forget, when it comes to relationships, is just how different men and women are. Below, an excerpt from my book, Think & Date Like A Man, written for women, explains some of the differences, along with an introduction to what I call “Man-Think”. We all know that men differ from women in so many ways, especially in how they think, in this case, how they think about women, about sex, about dating, and about relationships. Now, if you were trying to make a business deal with, say, a Japanese CEO, wouldn’t it make sense to learn how the Japanese think and speak? Attracting a man is no different than scoring a successful deal: You want something from (or better, with) him — a relationship.

Mastering the intricacies of the mind of your prospective mate is the key to attracting and attaining him … to say nothing of keeping him. So learn his language. Learn his thought processes. And be prepared for success: That understanding will greatly increase your odds of getting what you want. I know because I’ve experienced it personally, as have countless women I’ve enlightened about Man-Think. Here’s an example: Unlike a woman, a man does not worship at the altar of The Relationship. He does not throw himself body and soul into developing and nurturing The Relationship. He does not fall apart like a house of cards if The Relationship doesn’t work out. It’s not that a relationship wouldn’t be important to him at some point down the line. And it’s not that he can’t commit or isn’t capable of real love. It’s just that The Relationship isn’t the be-all and end-all of his existence. What is the be-all and end-all of a man’s life? He is. His needs, his desires, and his goals are.

Men were not brought up to please everyone around them like most women were. Men have been doted on and waited on by overly attentive mothers since birth. While girls were learning how to make boys happy, boys were learning how to make themselves happy. As a result, men have learned that THEY are the center of the universe. Not you. Not the relationship. Does this mean that men will never want a relationship? Of course it doesn’t. A relationship with you could very well be on a man’s list of desires. But if it is, it’s probably not his only desire or even the most important one to him. On the list of things important in his life, getting to know you could be ranked number 3, 7, or 12, along with his career, exercising, sports, his male friends, his family, his female friends, his hobbies, his penis, his quest to find himself, his search for an autographed photo of Angelina Jolie on eBay, or even his desire to simply be alone for a while. And just as you are hopefully on his list of life essentials, you are certainly not the only one on that list.

To men, dating is a numbers game. He’s not waiting by the phone for you to call. He’s not planning his weekend around you and your schedule. He’s getting out there, increasing the odds, his odds — at least, for now. At least, until you both have mutually made that agreement of exclusivity. Until then, he’s not marrying you, he’s not getting engaged to you, he’s not committing to you; he is dating. He is dating you, just like he is dating other women. He’s finding out what’s out there, what he likes, what he needs. That’s what a man does. That’s how a man thinks. That’s how a man dates. And that’s what you should do, how you should think, and how you should date if you hope to eventually have that mutual commitment. Because if he gets wind of your worship at the altar of The Relationship before he’s even considered what’s between the two of you, he’ll be out the door.

For more dating tips for women from relationship advice expert April Masini, pick up a copy of her best selling book, “Think & Date Like A Man”, today!