Free Love Relationship Advice

The Obsessive Ex

What should you do if you find yourself with an obsessive ex who becomes a stalker?

Sadly, sometimes an ex refuses to accept the relationship is over and their behavior escalates to persistent pleading, begging, arguing, texting, phoning, emailing – and showing up. If this happens to you, here’s what you need to do:

– Look your ex directly in the eyes and state that you want to be left alone; that the break up is permanent and non-negotiable; and that you will refuse all future requests to meet or communicate for any reason.

– Do not discuss past shared experiences or good memories.

– Gather all of your ex’s belongings and have them delivered to them – all at once.

– If your ex refuses to get the message and continues to stalk you, warn them once that if they do it again you will contact the police and file for a restraining order… and then follow through.

– Get caller ID and keep a phone log of hang-ups; save voicemails, emails, letters, etc. You need to be prepared to demonstrate stalking and harassing behavior to authorities.

– Last resort… relocate. Send a certified letter to the DMV, the phone company and all utilities (water, electricity, cable, etc.) advising them that your personal information must be blocked; your phone number and address must be unlisted. Have all bills and official mail sent to a post office box that will forward your mail to you.