Office Romance

Workplace Romance - Turning An Office Fling Into A Long Term Romance

Even though it’s often advised against, dating people you work with just makes practical sense—after all, we spend so much of our lives in the office, there’s often no other way or time to meet anyone else. But that’s not to say you don’t have to be smart about your choices, and take extra precautions, especially if you want to segway from fling to the real thing.

The one overriding warning worth heeding—the one that should dictate all of your actions and words if you’re looking for a relationship—is this: People talk. No matter how great your coworkers are, secrets are almost always spilled, whether accidentally or intentionally. So this means you must say nothing that you would not want the object-of-your-affection (and the entire office) to eventually know about. No talking about how hot other guys are. No spreading the word about any “size” or performance issues. And absolutely no acting in an affectionate way in front of coworkers until he shows you it’s ok (i.e.—let him make the first “PDA”).

And the one thing you should never reveal at work, even to the guy you’re dating? That you’re looking for another job. Even if you’re coworkers are your good friends and you know your new guy wouldn’t betray you, never forget that they’re also your competition. And nothing brings the claws out (even in friends) quite like the opportunity for a better job (i.e.—more money). Keep it to yourself until you’re out of there!

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