Dating Advice for Women

I hear so many women say that they don’t want to “play games” with men, but the truth is that being totally honest and totally up-front is totally unwise. Things that would move us to tears—like hearing them profess their feelings for us—will move them to running right out the door, if we’re the initiators.  

Deal breakers for them are too much emotion too fast, and a sense that they’re being “pressured” or “trapped”. This, of course, isn’t to say you can’t pressure them, but the trick is to apply it so subtly, they don’t even know what’s happening. Better still, figure out a way to make them think it’s their idea!

Specific things you can do in the beginning are:

·      Don’t be too available—let them come to you

·      Don’t call them, except to return their call

·      Let them express their feelings/interest first

·      When all else fails, just bite your tongue!

Of course, I would never advise women to put their own desires on the back burner. But I do think we have to get real with ourselves about how we can best work with the guys in our lives to get what we want.  

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