It’s no wonder divorce rates for second and third marriages are so much higher than for first marriages — they’re harder! Especially when there are stepfamilies involved. So many people and dynamics come into play, it’s no wonder these families need guidance and support.
The biggest problem we, as Americans, have in marriage and divorce […]

Why are so many single women — either divorced, widowed or never married — in the middle section of their lives, wondering how they got this way?
The Widowed Woman
Women alone in middle age because they are widowed, are just circumstantial singles. There was nothing that they did or didn’t do to make them single at […]

Celebrating any change can be a great ritual and a way of making a transition from one way of life to another. Therefore, divorce parties can be wonderful steps in life. There are two pieces of advice I give:
1. Keep the tone positive. Do not resort to trashing an ex. In fact, trashing anyone is […]

Arguments. What are they and why do we have them?
Arguments are when people disagree and make their disagreements vocal or written or express them in some way that involves engagement.
Arguments are a way of engagement. People argue because they want to connect. They want their opinion heard by the person they’re arguing with or by […]

“It’s better to have loved and lost than to never love at all.”
How many times have you heard that and thought, “ugh, shut up”? Of course, you can argue both sides of it. Yes, you learn from every relationship you’re in; but whether or not you need to go through so many horrible experiences to […]

What’s it like to suddenly be single after having been in relationships for 6 years straight? Fabulous. Sure, you might think I’m just saying that, but I’m not. While there’s nothing better than being in a strong, healthy relationship, right now I know that the best thing for me is to be on my own schedule, to work […]

Ah, the ex-boyfriend or -girlfriend. What on Earth do we do with them, right? Some say, once you tell them sayonara, it’s forever; while others claim you can remain friends even after one or both of you have horribly broken the other’s heart. And me? I stand in the middle camp. I am fully confident that […]

Of course we all dream about finding that special someone who will be in our lives forever. Some of us date non-stop, determined to find him or her now. And some of us cry ourselves to sleep at night, depressed to be single. Being single has a bad name. But really? Being single is just as […]

I receive lots of questions from readers about how to split up the holidays, either because of divorce or family obligations. With Easter approaching, here are a few tips and strategies families can try to employ.1. Do it ahead of time. For anyone divorcing, splitting up the holidays for a custody schedule is not […]

Breakups can affect people deeply and the breakup of a relationship like a marriage or a long term, monogamous relationship can be as wrenching, emotionally, as a death.  There are ways, however, to make the breakup less traumatic, below:
1. Grieve. Allow yourself a good cry — and a good series of cries. Allow yourself to […]