The Power Behind “I Love You”  THE FIRST WORDS A BABY HEARS The first thing that mothers and fathers say to their babies, usually at birth, is “I love you”.  For the next year those are probably the most repeated words that any baby hears, and sees the cooing, loving faces of adoring adults saying it to […]

No More New Year’s Resolutions
I’m a big believer in doing what you set out to do, and finding any obstacles that keep you from your goal, and breaking them down or going around them. My average reader wants help keeping New Year’s Resolutions, but there are times when no resolution is the best resolution. If […]

Do’s and Don’t for Going It Suddenly Single On New Year’s Eve
DO have reasonable expectations for the evening. You probably won’t meet Mr. Right tonight, and be engaged six months from now. You will probably have a good time or a bad time — that’s right — one or the other. Your choice. […]

Alleviating Holiday Stress When You’ve Lost a Loved One
The Importance of Grieving
Allow yourself to grieve. Pain of loss is very hard to allow. Sometimes we do all kinds of things to avoid feeling the pain. We distract ourselves. We numb ourselves. We pretend to ourselves. We sublimate our feelings and work very hard so we […]

Reaching Serenity After the Holiday Crunch
Five tips towards winding down from the holidays and heading into the New Year in peace, with a calm state of mind.
#1 - Take a moment of silence — or an hour — to ring in the new year. In this age of stimulation and 24/7 communication one of […]

You’re Gay, and You’re Going Home for the HolidaysIs there any way to alleviate stress when you’re going home for the holidays and you’re gay — and your parents aren’t accepting?Going home for the holidays, when you’re gay, and your parents aren’t — sexually or literally — can be difficult. But there are ways to […]

Photos have a lot to do with the owners of the photos — some people throw out any photos in which they don’t look good — or in which they don’t look the way the person wants to remember themselves or their loved ones.
I suggest saving ALL pictures — even the ones you hate — […]

Dating Polygamy
No matter how freaky you want to get in a relationship, there’s almost always someone else out there willing to go down that path with you, which is why it’s unnecessary (and cruel) to be in multiple serious relationships at once without the knowledge of all parties. If you can’t make the commitment, or enjoy […]

 Violence in Dating
Not only are women staying in violent relationships when they’re not married—they’re in violent relationships before they’re even women! Data suggest that 25% of 8th and 9th graders have experienced dating violence. The reasons behind this phenomenon are still debatable, ranging from media influence to a breakdown in family, but one thing’s for […]

So your profile brings them in by the boatload, and you’ve even perfected the art of flirting online. The question now is: Do you remember how to have a “normal”, in-person, interaction?

Don’t scoff. Interpersonal skills, just like knowing a foreign language, have to be kept in working order. It’s much easier, after all, to be […]