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Dating Bad Boys - Why Some Women Can't Stop Falling for Bad Boys

Advice Seeker: Dear April,

I can’t stop dating bad boys. I continuously get hurt, but I’m attracted to them. Is this normal? Do you have any advice for me to deal with my obsession with bad boys?

Signed,

My Bad…Boy

April Masini's advice:

Dear My Bad...Boy,

There have always been certain women who love bad boys and there is nothing wrong with it – unless, like you, they keep getting hurt because of patterns of similar behavior. Then, it’s time to take your bad self and figure out why you’re with these bad boys, and how to stop getting hurt .

People don’t do things without reason. In other words, there is a reason (that you may, or may not, be conscious of) that is why you are finding yourself attracted to bad boys, acting on the attraction, and allowing yourself to get hurt over and over again by these same guys – that’s right – you heard me: allowing yourself to get hurt.

Why Women Love Bad Boys

1. Women love to take care of men.

(And men love to be taken care of – the good guys love to be taken care of by a woman they love and the bad boys love to be taken care of by any woman. In fact, the more women taking care of them, the merrier.) Sometimes that nurturing instinct goes haywire, and women start taking care of their husbands and their boyfriends the way they would take care of their own children.

Bad boys are not called bad men – they’re called bad boys for a reason. Bad boys don’t act like mature, responsible men. They act in their own best interests, like children do, and wind up getting in trouble because of it. That’s why bad boys, like all children, appear to need taking care of more than men do. Women that love to take care of men, and have that nurturing thing going on full force, will feel fulfilled by taking care of a bad boy.