I’m a big believer in doing what you set out to do, and finding any obstacles that keeps you from your goal, and breaking them down or going around them. My average reader wants help keeping New Year’s Resolutions, but there are times when no resolution is the best resolution.

If you keep putting yourself in a situation where you can’t succeed, you’re going to beat your self-esteem and your confidence into the ground single-handedly. If you fail at your New Year’s resolutions year after year after year, and it’s really eating away at you, stop the pattern. Try not making a resolution. Not one.

If, upon not making resolutions, you still find that there are things you want to change, things you don’t like, and things that are stopping you from getting what you want, then you need to revisit the resolution department.