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Tips for Planning the Perfect Aphrodisiac Dinner

Advice Seeker: Dear April,

I want to cook my new boyfriend dinner this weekend but I really want it to be special. I'm a good cook so I've got that covered, but I want it to be extremely romantic and just the start to an amazing evening at home. Do you have any tips for how to have an aphrodisiac dinner that will add sizzle and romance to my relationship?

Sincerely,

Get the Romance Started

April Masini's advice:

Dear Get the Romance Started,

An aphrodisiac dinner is the perfect idea to get the romance started and attracting your partner. The feeling of wearing beautiful silk lingerie -- even if it isn't showing to the world -- can make a woman feel sexy and act sexier than usual. Same thing is true with a delicious perfume or the taste of fine wine. And on a smaller scale, to illustrate the same point, a woman with a new haircut that she loves has a bounce in her step that wasn't there with the old "do." What we put in, on, and around our body affects us -- and our sexuality.

Dos and don'ts to make your aphrodisiac dinner delightful:

DO:

1. Get rid of stress. Have a massage and a long, lingering bath by candlelight with great smelling bath oils or bubbles. Play music that is relaxing. Shut your door.

2. Take time on your toilette. Preparing for a date is part of the sexuality you bring to a date. When you take time to bathe and dress leisurely, you project -- and feel -- sexual and relaxed.

3. Great lingerie, great clothes, great shoes -- and a great pedicure and manicure as well as waxing -- all make you feel sexy and more at ease and open to the aphrodisiac experience. When you’re confident and relaxed with your appearance, you can forget it – and let him focus on it while you just have flirty fun.

DON’T:

1. Start talking business. Nothing kills the mood like talking about stressful things like projects that are due at work, financial challenges and in-laws. Keep the subject matter playful. Make jokes. And better yet, flirt.

2. Talk about your past boyfriends or ex-spouse. Whomever you’re with for dinner wants to feel like he or she is the only one. Keep the night about the two of you.

3. Be closed-minded. If you're offered something like uni -- sea urchin sushi -- which is an aphrodisiac -- try it! Being experimental is fun and sexy.

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