Valentines Day Date Ideas  

The Do's & Don'ts For An Aphrodisiac Valentine's Day Dinner

Valentines Day Date Ideas

Relationship Advice Expert April Masini

Advice Seeker: Dear April Masini,

Valentine's Day is coming up soon and I'm so stressed out. Everything at my office is completely hectic, I'm working long hours, and I'm always thinking about work. My husband is fabulous and I can't wait to spend time with him, but I'm worried I won't be able to get my mind off the job. Do you have any tips that will help me unwind before all of the romance?

Sincerely,

Hard Working Woman


April Masini's advice:

Dear Hard Working Woman,

Valentine's Day calls for a red drink — red wine, Campari and soda, a Cosmopolitan, or some Port. But why stop there? Make your night an aphrodisiac night. Whether or not there is biological basis to aphrodisiacs, I'm all for them! Certain foods, smells and sensations make people feel amorous — and it doesn't take a scientific study to prove it — just some feminine common sense.

The feeling of wearing beautiful silk lingerie — even if it isn't showing to the world — can make a woman feel sexy and act sexier than usual. Same thing is true with a delicious perfume or the taste of fine wine. And on a smaller scale, to illustrate the same point, a woman with a great, new walk with a bounce in her step that wasn't there with the old "do." What we put in, on and around our body affects us — and our sexuality.

Dos and Don'ts to Make Your Aphrodisiac Dinner Delightful:

DO:

1. Get rid of stress. Have a massage and a long, lingering bath by candlelight with great smelling bath oils or bubbles. Play music that is relaxing. Shut your door.

2. Take time on your toilette. Preparing for a date is part of the sexuality you bring to a date. When you take time to bathe and dress leisurely, you project — and feel — sexual and relaxed.

3. Great lingerie, great clothes, great shoes — and a great pedicure and manicure as well as waxing — all make you feel sexy and more at ease and open to the aphrodisiac experience. When you're confident and relaxed with your appearance, you can forget it – and let him focus on it while you just have flirty fun.

DON'T:

1. Start talking business. Nothing kills the mood like talking about stressful things like projects that are due at work, financial challenges and in laws. Keep the subject matter playful. Make jokes. And better yet, flirt.

2. Talk about your past boyfriends or ex-spouse. Whomever you're with for Valentine's Day dinner wants to feel like he or she is the only one. Keep the night about the two of you.

3. Be closed-minded. If you're offered something like sea urchin sushi — which is an aphrodisiac — try it! Being experimental is fun and sexy.

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April Masini -- nicknamed "the new millennium's Dear Abby" by the media, is author of the best-selling books Date Out Of Your League and Think & Date Like A Man, the two (just released) step-by-step dating and relationship manuals, Ideas for a Fun Date and Romantic Date Ideas, and the critically acclaimed dating and relationship online magazine www.AskApril.com.