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Relationship Advice: Cheating Housewives  

Liar, Liar - To Catch A Cheat - Learn The Signs Of A Lie

Dating Tips and Advice

Advice Seeker: Dear April,

I'm usually not the suspicious type, but I think my girlfriend is cheating on me. Last Tuesday evening she didn't answer her home or cell phone, and when she finally called me back the next day I got this long dramatic story about where she had been and why she couldn't call me right back. This wasn't the first time this has happened, and while I don't want to falsely accuse her, I don't want to be a fool either. Are there any tips you could give me on how to tell if she's lying?

Sincerely,

Tell the Truth


April Masini's advice:

Dear Tell the Truth, 

If you're suspicious of your girlfriend, there are definitely some things you can be checking out. There are some simple ways you can actually tell if someone is lying to you!

Liar, liar, pants on fire -- The telltale signs that what someone is telling you is a serious smoke screen:

  • Information Overload: You ask a simple question and get a complex, long, drawn out, (too) detailed explanation, with way more information than necessary. Liars try to convince by revealing too much information and too many "facts," rather than conveying a simple answer to a question.
     
  • Informational inconsistencies or lack of logic to statements, the stories seem too dramatic or unrealistic. 
     
  • Physical discomfort -- blushing, sweating, leg jiggling, scratching a maddening itch.
     
  • Inappropriate body movement -- unexplained smirks, inadvertent shrugs, lack of eye contact or shifty eyes, and inappropriate smiles. 
     
  • Changes in speech patterns -- hesitations, odd phrases, slips of the tongue, or quickened speech.
     
  • Repetition: Repeating questions can be sign of someone buying time to formulate her or his lie. 
     
  • A strong feeling that something's not right. If your gut tells you that "something is up" with what someone is telling you, pay close attention to their behavioral patterns (how a person sits, gestures, looks at you, responds, talks, etc.), listen for inconsistencies in information and watch for too much information -- someone who is trying to convince you with too many facts, rather than convey.

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