please help!!!!

[hurt and confused]

I am a lesbian with a bisexual girlfriend. 7 months ago my girlfriend cheated on me with our guy best friend. I just now found out about it after he told me not her. She claims it will never happen again and she was scared to be in love with me. Is this normal? It hurt me so bad and I just don't know how to deal with it. i love her so much but I believed her and trusted both of them. Now I cant get the image out of my head and I get disgusted everytime i look at her. I trusted her to live with him for 4 months and she says nothing happened the entire time and it only happened when he moved out and came back up to work on her car. How do I deal with this and how can i get the image out of my head. I'm mad at both of them because they didnt tell me and decided to keep it a secret for the longest time. should I stay in this relationship or is it best to move on. I love her so much i just dont know what to do.

[April Masini]

I think it's time for you to move on because your girlfriend is interested in men, and there is no way, as a woman, that you can satisfy that need. This is aside from the fact that she cheated on you. If you accept her apology and expect her to remain monogamous, you're fooling yourself. If she's going to want men in addition to women, you're only ever going to be able to satisfy half of her needs -- through no fault of your own. So accept reality, and know that your girlfriend isn't right for you.

You may think you're in love with her, but she's just disrespected you and hurt you a lot. That's not how a lover or a friend acts. Understand that just because you love her, doesn't mean she's a compatible lover or girlfriend, and you can do a lot better by finding someone who is respectful, monogamous, and as into you as you are into her.

I hope that helps.

Good luck, and let me know how things go.