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Cha-ching! Cheating
Q: My wife has never cheated on me. But she lies to me about how much she spends and where she spends it. What’s going on?
Cha-ching

A: Dear Cha-Ching:
Financial infidelity is just as scorching as sexual infidelity. When a spouse lies about money getting caught can lead to divorce a lot quicker than getting caught sleeping with a bimbo. The reason is that men have a history of cheating on wives and girlfriends that is historical.

Is It Over?
Q: I love my wife – but I’m, frankly, bored. I don’t want to have a roving eye, but I do. Does this mean we’re headed for divorce?
Signed,
Last Dance

A: Dear Last Dance:
You’re HARDLY over. If you think being bored is a sign of divorce then you need to get out more and see what real problems are! If you love your wife and there is enough good in your life, chances are you just need to shake things up a little bit and you’re going to be fine. But sometimes people really, really, really get stuck in a rut and they don’t see how easy it is to get out.

Friends With An Ex
Q: My girlfriend of two years, who is 25, dated her ex off-and-on for 5 years, through college (although they attended different schools). Now her ex is back on the scene. My girlfriend is naturally friendly and has always told me she wants to remain friends with her ex. However she is in a secret book club that consists of just him and her -- and of which I am not supposed to know about, but I do. They live in different states so they don't physically meet up, but they are reading the same book and having discussions over the phone with "wine and pajama pants." She claims I am her true love and there's nothing to worry about, but she keeps me in the dark (or so she thinks) about her interactions with him, and I'm feeling like something's wrong. Am I right?
Signed,
Dark Vader

A: Dear Dark Vader: You may be her true love, but she may not be yours! This can be difficult to figure out and even more difficult to accept

Don't Be The Turkey
Q: I'm dreading Thanksgiving because my in-laws make me feel anxious and unworthy. How can I survive Thanksgiving at their house -- and have a good time?
Signed,
Turkey Time Blues

A: Dear Turkey Time Blues:
Somehow or other we all forget about the real meaning of Thanksgiving the second we realize we have to spend our holiday with -- shudder -- relatives!

About April

Nicknamed "the new millennium’s Dear Abby" by the media, April Masini writes 'AskApril.com', the hot, provocative dating and relationship online magazine, the critically acclaimed 'Ask April’ advice column and is the author of the best-selling book, Date Out Of Your League. Interviewed for over 1,800 national and international articles and opinion pieces including those on CBS, FOX, ABC, CNN, MSN, Wall Street Journal, New York Times, New York Daily News, Los Angeles Times, Chicago Tribune, Forbes, Cosmopolitan, Maxim, Wired, AOL, and Yahoo! -- to name a few, "April writes what Dear Abby will never print, and what your shrink doesn't have the guts to tell you!"

April In The News

FOXNews, Can You Hear Me Now? Dates vs. Cell Phones, by Jesse Lanier, November 1, 2005

Univision, Discute sin pelear: sólo expone tu idea, by Laura Antun, November 2005

Yahoo! Personals, Become The Date You Would Like To Have, by April Masini, Special to Yahoo!, October 2005

LifetimeTV, Feature: Escape That Bad Date!, by Valerie Nahmad, October 2005

iVillage, Marriage Mania: What's Your Deadline? The Old-Fashioned New Relationship Trend, by Sherry Amatenstein, October 2005

Herald-Dispatch, More Seniors Getting Into Dating, by Jean Tarbett, September 15, 2005

The New York Times, The Fairway Isn't the Only Way to Bond, by Lisa Belkin, August 28, 2005

April's Readers Poll Results

When asked "Would You Cheat?", respondents voted:

36% voted: Yes, if I could get away with it.
6% voted: Yes, but I would feel very guilty.
34% voted: No, I have too much love and respect for my partner.
25% voted: No, because even if I were in a bad relationship, cheating is immoral.

April's Guest Contributor: Danielle Seadia

Danielle Seadia is a National Voiceover Talent and Dating Expert having fixed up thousands on singles nationwide on the "Hotline" radio dating show. Her voice is heard on radio and television commercials nationwide with clients like PerfectMatch.com, QVC, Cellular One, RaceTrac, and Shadow Tans to name just a few. She maintains a private coaching practice and leads a singles group weekly. In 2005 Danielle was nominated as one most eligible bachelorette's on the East Coast. Single by choice but open to meeting eligible bachelors, Danielle uses her real life dating experiences and the insights along the way to impart savy dating advice. Her website is www.danielleseadia.com.

Phone It In
Let's face it -- when it comes to dating you've got to "get it goin' on" otherwise it just won't be goin' anywhere... at all. Luckily there are some things you can do to improve your game. And one of the sexiest things you've got going is your voice -- so play it up -- or get played.

What does your cell phone or home answering machine say about you?
Do you sound like you need cold medication and a cup of tea with honey and lemon? Are there six kids screaming in the background? Did the police drive by just as you were leaving your voice machine message, so it sounds like you're an extra on a weekly cop show? Is how you sound the way you want to sound?

No one every talks about how you sound is so key to gettin' your groove on, it's worth taking the time to make some adjustments. Do you need to freshen things up there? Is your greeting in need of an overhaul? With our busy lives playing phone tag is normal now, and your personal voicemail greeting is the first impression -- and sometimes the daily impression -- you're leaving with people. Your voice mail message is key to using technology as your dating ally. Being a voice actress working with my voice I can personally attest to the fact that how you SOUND is JUST as important as how you look -- and sometimes more so. Listen to your voice mail greeting the next time you're at your answering machine or logged into your cell voicemail.

Check for the following things:
-- Do I have background noise, music or other cute effects on my greeting?
-- Remove them promptly and re-record.
-- Do I have mess ups of flubs on my recording?

Again RE-RECORD but do it IMMEDIATELY. Nothing says dating disaster than an answering machine message with stutters, vocal mishaps like coughs and sneezes or cracked voices or presentation mistakes...we've all heard them and now it's time to eliminate these dating clunkers.

Also do yourself a favor and make sure that how you sound on the phone is really consistent with the image you want to present. Add some warmth and excitement into your voice like you're actually happy to take a call or hear from someone. Or at least give that impression. And make sure your greeting is short and to the point. No one wants to sit through a saga. Fun, happy and on the run must become your motto. Let that motto shine thru in your voice. Same thing with your attitude in person. Let the fun come out. Laugh and let the laugh out.

We all need to loosen up a little in order to get our groove on because no one likes rotten attitudes and a stinkin' look on our face. Smile, be proud to be the eligible, hot stuff that you are and people will acknowledge, recognize and reflect it back to you. Getting your groove on is letting the world know you've got it goin' on and anyone would be lucky to be in your presence. So go out and get 'em -- starting with your voice!


The Official AskApril Newsletter
October Issue Latest Articles Cha-ching! Cheating! Is it Over? Friends With An Ex? Don't Be The Turkey About April Masini April In The News April's Readers Poll Results April's Guest Contributor: Danielle Seadia New Articles Here are the latest articles on AskApril.com: Cha-ching! Cheating Q: My wife has never cheated on me. But she lies to me about how much she spends and where she spends it. What’s going on? Cha-ching A: Dear Cha-Ching: Financial infidelity is just as scorching as sexual infidelity. When a spouse lies about money getting caught can lead to divorce a lot quicker than getting caught sleeping with a bimbo. The reason is that men have a history of cheating on wives and girlfriends that is historical. Read More Is It Over? Q: I love my wife – but I’m, frankly, bored. I don’t want to have a roving eye, but I do. Does this mean we’re headed for divorce? Signed, Last Dance A: Dear Last Dance: You’re HARDLY over. If you think being bored is a sign of divorce then you need to get out more and see what real problems are! If you love your wife and there is enough good in your life, chances are you just need to shake things up a little bit and you’re going to be fine. But sometimes people really, really, really get stuck in a rut and they don’t see how easy it is to get out. Read More Friends With An Ex Q: My girlfriend of two years, who is 25, dated her ex off-and-on for 5 years, through college (although they attended different schools). Now her ex is back on the scene. My girlfriend is naturally friendly and has always told me she wants to remain friends with her ex. However she is in a secret book club that consists of just him and her -- and of which I am not supposed to know about, but I do. They live in different states so they don't physically meet up, but they are reading the same book and having discussions over the phone with "wine and pajama pants." She claims I am her true love and there's nothing to worry about, but she keeps me in the dark (or so she thinks) about her interactions with him, and I'm feeling like something's wrong. Am I right? Signed, Dark Vader A: Dear Dark Vader: You may be her true love, but she may not be yours! This can be difficult to figure out and even more difficult to accept Read More Don't Be The Turkey Q: I'm dreading Thanksgiving because my in-laws make me feel anxious and unworthy. How can I survive Thanksgiving at their house -- and have a good time? Signed, Turkey Time Blues A: Dear Turkey Time Blues: Somehow or other we all forget about the real meaning of Thanksgiving the second we realize we have to spend our holiday with -- shudder -- relatives! Read More About April Nicknamed "the new millennium’s Dear Abby" by the media, April Masini writes 'AskApril.com', the hot, provocative dating and relationship online magazine, the critically acclaimed 'Ask April’ advice column and is the author of the best-selling book, Date Out Of Your League. Interviewed for over 1,800 national and international articles and opinion pieces including those on CBS, FOX, ABC, CNN, MSN, Wall Street Journal, New York Times, New York Daily News, Los Angeles Times, Chicago Tribune, Forbes, Cosmopolitan, Maxim, Wired, AOL, and Yahoo! -- to name a few, "April writes what Dear Abby will never print, and what your shrink doesn't have the guts to tell you!" April In The News FOXNews, Can You Hear Me Now? Dates vs. Cell Phones, by Jesse Lanier, November 1, 2005 Univision, Discute sin pelear: sólo expone tu idea, by Laura Antun, November 2005 Philly.com, Stepfamily Advice, by Lisa Cohn, October 26, 2005 MSN Dating and Personals, Young Women, Same Old Problem, by Margot Carmichael Lester, October 2005 Yahoo! Personals, Become The Date You Would Like To Have, by April Masini, Special to Yahoo!, October 2005 LifetimeTV, Feature: Escape That Bad Date!, by Valerie Nahmad, October 2005 MSN, Lifestyle, Three Little Words, by Lisa Daily, October 2005 iVillage, Marriage Mania: What's Your Deadline? The Old-Fashioned New Relationship Trend, by Sherry Amatenstein, October 2005 WebMD, Seeing Green: All About Jealousy, by Carol Sorgen, October 2005 New York Daily News, Front Page, Hollywood's Stand-In Dads, by Kristen Kemp, September 25, 2005 MSN, Dating and Personals, Post-breakup Dos and Don'ts, by Lisa Lombardi, October 2005 Herald-Dispatch, More Seniors Getting Into Dating, by Jean Tarbett, September 15, 2005 The New York Times, The Fairway Isn't the Only Way to Bond, by Lisa Belkin, August 28, 2005 Read More April's Readers Poll Results When asked "Would You Cheat?", respondents voted: 36% voted: Yes, if I could get away with it. 6% voted: Yes, but I would feel very guilty. 34% voted: No, I have too much love and respect for my partner. 25% voted: No, because even if I were in a bad relationship, cheating is immoral. April's Guest Contributor: Danielle Seadia About Danielle Seadia Danielle Seadia is a National Voiceover Talent and Dating Expert having fixed up thousands on singles nationwide on the "Hotline" radio dating show. Her voice is heard on radio and television commercials nationwide with clients like PerfectMatch.com, QVC, Cellular One, RaceTrac, and Shadow Tans to name just a few. She maintains a private coaching practice and leads a singles group weekly. In 2005 Danielle was nominated as one most eligible bachelorette's on the East Coast. Single by choice but open to meeting eligible bachelors, Danielle uses her real life dating experiences and the insights along the way to impart savy dating advice. Her website is www.danielleseadia.com. Phone It In Let's face it -- when it comes to dating you've got to "get it goin' on" otherwise it just won't be goin' anywhere... at all. Luckily there are some things you can do to improve your game. And one of the sexiest things you've got going is your voice -- so play it up -- or get played. What does your cell phone or home answering machine say about you? Do you sound like you need cold medication and a cup of tea with honey and lemon? Are there six kids screaming in the background? Did the police drive by just as you were leaving your voice machine message, so it sounds like you're an extra on a weekly cop show? Is how you sound the way you want to sound? No one every talks about how you sound is so key to gettin' your groove on, it's worth taking the time to make some adjustments. Do you need to freshen things up there? Is your greeting in need of an overhaul? With our busy lives playing phone tag is normal now, and your personal voicemail greeting is the first impression -- and sometimes the daily impression -- you're leaving with people. Your voice mail message is key to using technology as your dating ally. Being a voice actress working with my voice I can personally attest to the fact that how you SOUND is JUST as important as how you look -- and sometimes more so. Listen to your voice mail greeting the next time you're at your answering machine or logged into your cell voicemail. Check for the following things: -- Do I have background noise, music or other cute effects on my greeting? -- Remove them promptly and re-record. -- Do I have mess ups of flubs on my recording? Again RE-RECORD but do it IMMEDIATELY. Nothing says dating disaster than an answering machine message with stutters, vocal mishaps like coughs and sneezes or cracked voices or presentation mistakes...we've all heard them and now it's time to eliminate these dating clunkers. Also do yourself a favor and make sure that how you sound on the phone is really consistent with the image you want to present. Add some warmth and excitement into your voice like you're actually happy to take a call or hear from someone. Or at least give that impression. And make sure your greeting is short and to the point. No one wants to sit through a saga. Fun, happy and on the run must become your motto. Let that motto shine thru in your voice. Same thing with your attitude in person. Let the fun come out. Laugh and let the laugh out. We all need to loosen up a little in order to get our groove on because no one likes rotten attitudes and a stinkin' look on our face. Smile, be proud to be the eligible, hot stuff that you are and people will acknowledge, recognize and reflect it back to you. Getting your groove on is letting the world know you've got it goin' on and anyone would be lucky to be in your presence. So go out and get 'em -- starting with your voice! 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