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The Do's & Don'ts For How To Date Your Doctor
Q: I have started liking this doctor - currently I am a patient at his practice. I sense there is a mutual attraction that has gone stronger over two years. I sent him a holiday thank you card. I have not heard anything back. I wonder do I go to another practice in order for any potential to develop? Or can I suggest a date? I just don’t know how this can work. Will he ever take the initiative?
Signed,
Love Doctor

A: Dear Love Doctor:
First of all – never ask a man out! Never call him first. Don’t propose marriage to him, and DON’T make the first move on a date. I’m sorry to say that the Femininst Movement gave women like you some bad advice when they preached equality between the sexes.

In Love With An Older, Married, Woman
Q: I'm in love with a lady I've worked with for two years now at a national store. I'm 20 years old and she is 40 years old. We started out talking once in a while. Now we talk every time we see each other. One of us will approach the other. The thing is she's married. Three weeks ago I hadn't seen her car for a week. I asked her friend where she was, and her friend told me that her step father passed away. When I finally did see her, I asked her where she'd been, and she said, "You can't say anything." I agreed. She told me that she and her husband got into a fight. She said she had to take a week off of work because he hit her for the second time in their marriage, and that now they are going to court for a divorce. I was in shock, but I was also excited because maybe now she'll realize that she can have a better man -- me! She said she was staying at her sister's house.

I went home and thought about all this stuff. Why did her friend say her step father had died? Did she lie to her friend? Does she trust me more than her friend? And if so, am I more than a friend to her? After all, most people don't tell people this stuff unless they really love and trust them, right?

A week later, her car is back at hers and her husband's home. I am so upset asbout it. It's hard to see her when we're working. We just can't find that much time. I feel we need to talk outsside of work and not on a work break or when one of us comes into the store to do some shopping. I really am attracted to her. Last week I finally got the nerve to ask her for her phone number, and she gave it to me!!! Now, I do have a girlfriend, but I do not feel this way towards my girlfriend as I do for my 40 year old mistress. She said to me, I don't want to get in the middle between you and your girlfriend, and I told her -- you and I are just friends, right? She had a big, old smile and said, "Yes!!!" I was so happy and felt heart warmed with her big smile. I called her the next morning and we talked for five minutes until she had to go to work.

She must trust me to tell me where she lives and what's going on with her marriage and to give me her cell phone number, right? So, basically, I need to know what all of this means. Some people say she is nuts. But most people say it could just be her flirting. I believe it is love at first sight. I've had my eye on this woman for two years now. How do I win her? I won her trust, emotional support and her respect. What else do I need to do? Please just help me out. I don't want any negative feedback. Please be very supportive towards me.

Domestic Violence Is A Serious Matter -- Not A Detail Of A Relationship

Number one. This woman is a victim of domestic violence. If her husband finds out she’s flirting with a 20-year-old man at work, there is a strong chance he will beat her up. If he finds out she’s dating a 20-year-old man at work, he will probably beat her up even more. There is also a good chance he will come after you, too.

I Changed My Mind, I Want Him Back!
Q: I broke up with my boyfriend of 11 months about 5 weeks ago. I asked him last night if he wanted to go out sometime. He said he would, but right now he doesn't want a girlfriend because he is afraid of getting hurt again. He’s also hooking up with another girl at the moment, but I think he is just using her since he rejected her several times when she asked him out. How do I make my ex see that he can trust me again and that things could work between us? And when we hang out, should I make a move? I want to be back with him, but how do I get him back?
Sincerely,
Wanting Him Back

A: Dear Wanting Him Back: I don’t know why you broke up with your boyfriend of eleven months, but unless there is some revelatory reason for you to get back together – for instance there was a huge miscommunication or you’ve undergone a huge change, which I doubt – it’s over. And he’s sending you a clear message that he doesn’t want to get back together.

Fired Up: Working With Friends Crosses Lines
Q: I hired a friend of mine to work for me, and while it seemed like a great idea at the time, it’s been a disaster ever since. If this employee hadn’t been my friend first, I would have fired her a long time ago. What do I do?
Signed,
Fired Up

If you hire and fire, chances are, at some point, you're going to find yourself hiring and firing friends. That is, people you have had relationships with before you worked together – as opposed to people you work with who became friends afterwards.

April In The News

MSN and Match.com, Celebrity Love Lessons by Margot Carmichael Lester, August 2006

The Morning Call, There's More To Living With Roommates Than Finding An Apartment by Jessica Milcetich, August 2006

April's Readers Poll Results

When asked "Which of the following statements best reflects your opinion on men's rights, and how they are treated by the courts?", respondents voted:

25% voted: All this debate about men not getting fair or equal treatment in divorce and child custody cases is greatly exaggerated.
11% voted: Men are treated the way they deserve to be treated by the courts.
24% voted: Men get a bad rap and are treated unfairly when it comes to divorce, alimony and child custody.
40% voted: Women are not held accountable for anything... Men (on the other hand) are held accountable for, and are forced to pay for, everything.

45% of all respondents were male and 55% were female

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September 2006 Issue Latest Articles The Do's & Don'ts For How To Date Your Doctor In Love With An Older, Married, Woman I Changed My Mind, I Want Him Back! Fired Up: Working With Friends Crosses Lines About April Masini April In The News April's Readers Poll Results April's A-List Contributors New Articles Here are the latest articles on AskApril.com: The Do's & Don'ts For How To Date Your Doctor Q: I have started liking this doctor - currently I am a patient at his practice. I sense there is a mutual attraction that has gone stronger over two years. I sent him a holiday thank you card. I have not heard anything back. I wonder do I go to another practice in order for any potential to develop? Or can I suggest a date? I just don’t know how this can work. Will he ever take the initiative? Signed, Love Doctor A: Dear Love Doctor: First of all – never ask a man out! Never call him first. Don’t propose marriage to him, and DON’T make the first move on a date. I’m sorry to say that the Femininst Movement gave women like you some bad advice when they preached equality between the sexes. Read More In Love With An Older, Married, Woman Q: I'm in love with a lady I've worked with for two years now at a national store. I'm 20 years old and she is 40 years old. We started out talking once in a while. Now we talk every time we see each other. One of us will approach the other. The thing is she's married. Three weeks ago I hadn't seen her car for a week. I asked her friend where she was, and her friend told me that her step father passed away. When I finally did see her, I asked her where she'd been, and she said, "You can't say anything." I agreed. She told me that she and her husband got into a fight. She said she had to take a week off of work because he hit her for the second time in their marriage, and that now they are going to court for a divorce. I was in shock, but I was also excited because maybe now she'll realize that she can have a better man -- me! She said she was staying at her sister's house. I went home and thought about all this stuff. Why did her friend say her step father had died? Did she lie to her friend? Does she trust me more than her friend? And if so, am I more than a friend to her? After all, most people don't tell people this stuff unless they really love and trust them, right? A week later, her car is back at hers and her husband's home. I am so upset asbout it. It's hard to see her when we're working. We just can't find that much time. I feel we need to talk outsside of work and not on a work break or when one of us comes into the store to do some shopping. I really am attracted to her. Last week I finally got the nerve to ask her for her phone number, and she gave it to me!!! Now, I do have a girlfriend, but I do not feel this way towards my girlfriend as I do for my 40 year old mistress. She said to me, I don't want to get in the middle between you and your girlfriend, and I told her -- you and I are just friends, right? She had a big, old smile and said, "Yes!!!" I was so happy and felt heart warmed with her big smile. I called her the next morning and we talked for five minutes until she had to go to work. She must trust me to tell me where she lives and what's going on with her marriage and to give me her cell phone number, right? So, basically, I need to know what all of this means. Some people say she is nuts. But most people say it could just be her flirting. I believe it is love at first sight. I've had my eye on this woman for two years now. How do I win her? I won her trust, emotional support and her respect. What else do I need to do? Please just help me out. I don't want any negative feedback. Please be very supportive towards me. Sincerely, Want An Older Woman A: Dear Want An Older Woman: You wrote to me for honest advice, so here it is: Domestic Violence Is A Serious Matter -- Not A Detail Of A Relationship Number one. This woman is a victim of domestic violence. If her husband finds out she’s flirting with a 20-year-old man at work, there is a strong chance he will beat her up. If he finds out she’s dating a 20-year-old man at work, he will probably beat her up even more. There is also a good chance he will come after you, too. Read More I Changed My Mind, I Want Him Back! Q: I broke up with my boyfriend of 11 months about 5 weeks ago. I asked him last night if he wanted to go out sometime. He said he would, but right now he doesn't want a girlfriend because he is afraid of getting hurt again. He’s also hooking up with another girl at the moment, but I think he is just using her since he rejected her several times when she asked him out. How do I make my ex see that he can trust me again and that things could work between us? And when we hang out, should I make a move? I want to be back with him, but how do I get him back? Sincerely, Wanting Him Back A: Dear Wanting Him Back: I don’t know why you broke up with your boyfriend of eleven months, but unless there is some revelatory reason for you to get back together – for instance there was a huge miscommunication or you’ve undergone a huge change, which I doubt – it’s over. And he’s sending you a clear message that he doesn’t want to get back together. Read More Fired Up: Working With Friends Crosses Lines Q: I hired a friend of mine to work for me, and while it seemed like a great idea at the time, it’s been a disaster ever since. If this employee hadn’t been my friend first, I would have fired her a long time ago. What do I do? Signed, Fired Up A: Dear Fired Up: If you hire and fire, chances are, at some point, you're going to find yourself hiring and firing friends. That is, people you have had relationships with before you worked together – as opposed to people you work with who became friends afterwards. Read More April Masini -- nicknamed "the new millennium's Dear Abby" by the media, is author of the best-selling books Date Out Of Your League and Think & Date Like A Man, the two step-by-step dating and relationship manuals, 50 First Dates and The Next 50 Dates, and the critically acclaimed dating and relationship online magazine www.AskApril.com. Interviewed for over 2,300 national and international articles and opinion pieces, radio and television shows... Read More April In The News MSN and Match.com, Celebrity Love Lessons by Margot Carmichael Lester, August 2006 Boston Herald, TownOnline, Babymooning: Get Pampered Before It’s Time To Pamper by Wendy Bulawa, August 2006 The Morning Call, There's More To Living With Roommates Than Finding An Apartment by Jessica Milcetich, August 2006 Read More April's Readers Poll Results When asked "Which of the following statements best reflects your opinion on men's rights, and how they are treated by the courts?", respondents voted: 25% voted: All this debate about men not getting fair or equal treatment in divorce and child custody cases is greatly exaggerated. 11% voted: Men are treated the way they deserve to be treated by the courts. 24% voted: Men get a bad rap and are treated unfairly when it comes to divorce, alimony and child custody. 40% voted: Women are not held accountable for anything... 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