October 2006 Issue
- Latest Articles
- Soldier's Secret Love
- He Hasn't Called. Should I Call Him?
- Unfinished Business
- Are They Really Just Friends?
- About April Masini
- April In The News
- April's Readers Poll Results
- April's A-List Contributors
New Articles
Here are the latest articles on AskApril.com:
Soldier's Secret Love
Q: I met this girl in 3rd grade. Ever since the second I laid eyes on her I knew she was special. We have become the closest of best friends over the past 10 years. And over those 10 years my crush has grown into an indescribeable feeling for her. She is leaving for college in 4 months and I am leaving for the military. If I don't tell her how I feel now I may never get the chance. My legs start shaking when I even think about telling her. I don't know what to expect. What is the best way of telling her that I love her? I normally don't have a problem expressing my feelings but she is so special to me that I can't bare to think about losing her if I say the wrong things. Please help!
Signed,
Soldier With A Crush
A: Dear Soldier With A Crush
You are about to embark on a very brave and very honorable mission as a member of the U.S. military. You are going to defend our country, and in doing so, you are going to risk your life to serve. This is a remarkable and mature decision on your part.
He Hasn't Called. Should I Call Him?
Q: I have developed a crush on this guy at my school. He is really sweet and nice but I just am not sure what to do. A couple of nights ago I spent the night at his house and things got a little hot but nothing sexual. I am still a virgin. I’ve just done like first base type of things. I thought things would be weird for us after this but its not. He is 22 and I am 18. The problem is that he was married and just recently got a divorce, so could what happened that night be a vulnerable act or does he like me? And what should be my next move because this would be my first relationship and I don't know what to do? Lately I have been doing all of the calling and the inviting to do something. Do you think I should continue with this or not because I am afraid that if I don't he will just forget about me.
Signed,
Virgin in Both Sex and Relationships
A: Dear Virgin
Immediately: stop calling him. Immediately: stop inviting him to do things. You are the woman in this relationship and that means you have to act differently than the man – not take on the man’s role – which is what you’ve started doing. Men love to hunt and chase – in life and in relationships.
Unfinished Business
Q: Well, I'm an idiot! One night, about two years ago, being drunk and stupid, I checked my boyfriends e-mail and saw that he had sent an "anything but just friendly" e-mail to another girl. Ok, fine. I did question him about it and he said that’s just how they "talk" to each other. Well, everything has been fine since, but last week (like an idiot) I checked his cell phone and he's been calling her periodically (a few times a month, usually at home or on her cell). This guy is gonna propose to me soon. What am I supposed to do? I love and trust him but what’s going on? Most likely its just platonic, but how can I know? I can’t tell him I checked his phone!! Please help.
Sincerely,
Are They Just Friends?
A: Dear Are They Just Friends
You keep calling yourself an idiot, but I think you’re anything but an idiot. The only thing you are is someone who is not listening to her instincts. And you’re not taking responsibility for your life. You’re downplaying all your fears, but you’re clearly upset enough to write me. You say you were drunk and stupid to check your boyfriend’s e-mail, and I’m thinking – wait a minute!
Are They Really Just Friends?
Q: My partner still has contact with his ex. He has said to me several times that he will stop spending so much time with her. However, I see no change. What should I do?
A: If your boyfriend's ex is his ex-wife with children, then he will have to have contact with her for the rest of his life because of the children. That said, he should limit his contact to anything that has to do with the kids.
Author of the critically acclaimed Ask April advice column and the driving force behind www.AskApril.com, April Masini is also the best-selling author of four books: Date Out Of Your League, Think & Date Like A Man, 50 First Dates and The Next 50 Dates. Nicknamed "the new millennium's Dear Abby" by the media and interviewed for over 2,300 national and international articles, radio and television shows...Read More
April In The News
MSN, Celebrity Love Lessons by Margot Carmichael Lester, October 2006
Chicago Tribune, Home Repair Trend: Do-It-Herself by Elana Ashanti Jefferson, October 4, 2006
Univision, ¿Qué tono darle a la celebración? by Por Graziana Palazzo, October 2006
April's Readers Poll Results
When asked "What hair color are you
most attracted to?",
respondents voted:
25% voted: Blonde
15% voted: Black
32.5% voted: Dark Brown
6.3% voted: Light Brown
13.8% voted: Red
1.3% voted: Grey
2.5% voted: Bald
3.6% voted: Don't have preference
57% of all respondents were male and 43% were female
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