November 2006 Issue
New Articles
Here are the latest articles on AskApril.com:
Inter-Racial Couples
Q: I am a 35 year old, single, white
mom, and I’ve been dating a 38 year old, black man, who wants children
and has just asked me to marry him. I love him very much, but I’m not
sure if it’s a good idea to marry someone of a different race. What do
you think?
Sincerely,
Race Relations
A: Dear Race Relations:
Like inter-religious couples, there is no question that interracial couples face special challenges that same race couples and families do not face. And some challenges are more difficult to overcome than others. Marriage is a very serious proposition, under any circumstances, and I think that you are very wise to thoroughly examine the challenges you may face instead of jumping in without looking.
Are You A Football Widow?
Q: I hate this time of year because my boyfriend lives and breathes football. I feel neglected and lonely. How can I get through football season?
Sincerely,
A Football Widow
A: Dear Football Widow:
Like March Madness widows who lose their men to basketball, football widows can face a long, lonely winter when men are all about football. And unless you’re one of the lucky women who loves football, too, you have an incompatibility in your relationship. Any incompatibility can cause pain, but relax. It’s not cancer. It’s not a deal breaker in a relationship – at least it shouldn’t be. And unless his football mania is a symptom of some larger addiction problem, there’s no need to worry. And there are lots of things you can do to make life easier for yourself.
Politically Divided
Q: I have been dating my boyfriend for nearly a year, and we've gotten pretty serious. We've always had good conversations, but somehow politics never really came up until recently, especially with the election around the corner. I always thought we were on the same wavelength when it came to voting, because we're so compatible in most other areas, but when a mutual friend asked us which candidate we were voting for, we both said a different name. I was shocked and I think he was, too. Can it work out between us if we're at completely opposite ends of the political spectrum?
Sincerely,
Politically Divided Dater
A: Dear Politically Divided Dater,
It’s not surprising that the topic of politics hasn’t come up in conversation until now. There are few subjects that can spoil that exciting honeymoon period in the beginning of a relationship the way politics can. Religion is another. If two people are totally into each other, they are seeing each other through rose-colored glasses.
Your Polls are Opposite
Q: My boyfriend of six months is a staunch Bush supporter. He loves all things Republican, and is really gung-ho about the coming election. The problem is, I'm a Democrat, and when I bring it up, he laughs and says, "You can't be serious." When I try to tell him why I want to vote Left, he gets uppity and storms out of the room, and won't talk to me unless I bend over backwards to apologize. April, what I do? The more we watch the news and read the paper, the more I believe in my side, and the more my BF believes in the Republicans. Recently I've become silent about my political feelings, because I know it will cause a fight. But I can't take it any more. I'm so steamed, but I love him. What do I do?
Sincerely,
Democrat Loving Republican
A: It seems these days that politics have made there way into every bedroom in the country -- yours is no exception.
Author of the critically acclaimed Ask April advice column and the driving force behind www.AskApril.com, April Masini is also the best-selling author of four books: Date Out Of Your League, Think & Date Like A Man, 50 First Dates and The Next 50 Dates. Nicknamed "the new millennium's Dear Abby" by the media and interviewed for over 2,300 national and international articles, radio and television shows...Read More
April In The News
Miami Herald, Is His Getup A Clue To Your Lover's Intentions? by James H. Burnett I, October 28, 2006
MSN, Who’s Your Love Doctor? by Anna David, October 2006
Balance Magazine, Date At Work, But Work At Dating by April Masini, October 2006 Issue
April's Readers Poll Results
When asked "When is the best time to
get married?",
respondents voted:
29.6% voted: 20's
33.9% voted: 30's
3.5% voted: 40's
33% voted: When ever you meet "The One"
32% of all respondents were male and 68% were female
Express Yourself: Would you marry someone who is of a different race than you are?
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