January 2007 Issue

• Latest Articles
• The Truth About Pursuing Men
• Falling Too Fast
• Google A Date
• Cool Cuddling Or Poisonous Partying?
• Million Dollar Smile
• About April Masini
• April In The News
• April's Readers Poll Results

New Articles

Here are the latest articles on AskApril.com:

The Truth About Pursuing Men
Q: I started a relationship doing all the wrong things (not playing by the rules). I was too available, called him too much, was too attentive, let him know how I felt first (that I liked him), maybe gave too much information too soon, and slept with him a little bit sooner than I should have.  He has now cooled off (didn't call me for several days) and I sent him a "final" e-mail asking if we weren't talking anymore and he e-mailed and explained that he isn't ready for a relationship, that he was sorry for the mixed messages.

Can I turn it around now that he has cooled off on me? Does this mean that I can now play the "chase-me game" and win him over? Should I wait till after the weekend to call him back (which kind of makes me a hypocrite for being rude and not returning phone calls or e-mails)?
Sincerely,
Is It Too Late?

A: Dear Is It Too Late?:
I'm afraid that it may be too late for this particular man. The good news is that you realize what you did wrong. The next piece of good news is that you're writing to me and not him. The third piece of good news (I bet you didn't think there'd be this much good news coming to you!) is that you really do know what you've done wrong.

Falling Too Fast
Q: I met this guy online and after 2 weeks of not doing anything sexual but kissing, I told him I was falling in love. It scared him. Well, he is back and I welcomed him back into my life with open arms. We went to have sex and at first I was like a sex freak all over him and then when it got too serious, I froze up. I love this man. What could be causing me this problem? Is this normal after not being on the dating scene for a while?
Sincerely,
Single, Stay at Home Mom

A: Dear Single, Stay At Home Mom:
You’re right. You haven’t been on the dating scene long enough to remember (or learn) the rhythms of dating and of a relationship, so let me help you.

First, go buy my book, Think & Date Like A Man.

Google A Date
Q: I’ve been online dating for a couple of months and I think I’ve met someone I’m interested in going out with, but I’d like to know more. Should I google him?
Sincerely,
Google Safety

A: Dear Google Safety:
So you're about to go out with someone new. You know their first name and their last, so you get to work. The Googling begins. Googling prospective dates is pretty common. But, what if it turns out he or she murdered someone? Or was arrested for drinking and driving? While Google is grand, things aren't always what they seem. What's to say what you read is right? Also, there is more than one John D. Smith out there after all, right?

Cool Cuddling Or Poisonous Partying?
Q: I have a friend that engages in threesomes, swinging, and now—cuddle parties, with her husband. She says that they have great communication, and that it keeps their relationship fresh and exciting. What are cuddle parties? And do you think that engaging in these types of sexual behavior is damaging to couples, or good for them?
Sincerely,
Questioning Cuddling Parties

A: Dear Questioning Cuddling:
Yes, cuddle parties can be very damaging to young couples that are under the impression that these adult get-togethers, where pajamas are the dress code, are benign, fun-filled evenings with a collective love-vibe. The truth is that these parties do the most damage because they are misleading.

Million Dollar Smile
Q: I would do anything to have a smile that lights up a room like Julia Roberts or lips like Angelina Jolie. Do you have any tips?
Sincerely,
Million Dollar Smile

A: Dear Million Dollar Smile:
"Sex appeal is fifty percent what you’ve got and fifty percent what other people think you’ve got." - Sophia Loren

Pictures have become famous for it, songs have been written about it, and commercials on TV tell how to get it.

Author of the critically acclaimed Ask April advice column and the driving force behind AskApril.com, April Masini is also the best-selling author of four books: Date Out Of Your League, Think & Date Like A Man, 50 First Dates and The Next 50 Dates. Nicknamed "the new millennium's Dear Abby" by the media and interviewed for over 2,300 national and international articles, radio and television shows...Read More

April In The News

FOXs' O'Reilly Factor, April Masini one-on-one with Bill O'Reilly, Click here to view the video (13MB)

ABC News, Who Should Be Dating Whom in 2007? - Eminem & Shanna Moakler

ABC News, Who Should Be Dating Whom in 2007? - Jennifer Aniston & John Cusack

Yahoo Personals, What's Ahead For Romance and Relationships 2007?, December 2006

New York Times, At the Garden, the Knicks Go From Bad to Worse by Howard Beck, December 2006

April's Readers Poll Results

When asked "Overall, do you think Americans have more or less morals, family values, character and integrity than they did 5 years ago?", respondents voted:

Express Yourself: Should a faithful spouse be forced to pay alimony to a spouse who committed adultery in a divorce?