Relationship Advice I M All That
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Self esteem and dating go hand in hand. If you don't think you're ALL THAT then who will? If you're not quite there yet -- don't give up. It's all about first doing a 360 when it comes to your dating mentality, believing it, and then living it -- especially when you're workin' the singles scene.
Don't Let Anyone Else Determine Your Self-Worth
Right now you may be letting the people you date determine your self worth and self esteem. It goes something like this... if he or she wants me then... "I feel happy," but if he or she dumps me... well then... "Nobody is ever going to love me." We get on these emotional rollercoasters of love with the oh so dramatic ups and downs. It's like our whole life becomes a living soap opera and we're always on edge as to what will happen if we think or say or do something that our date will not like. It's equivalent to having an all-access pass to an adrenaline love fest that gets out of control and ultimately leads to heartbreak and total despair. Thrilling and dangerous yes, but healthy no. Basically friends, coworkers and associates get hooked on your latest dating escapade and you end up in the middle of the drama totally strung out, confused, angry and depressed from rehashing the day's dirt... over and over again.
Don't Live On The Edge
The best way to get out of the habit of living on the edge is to actually consider that you are a catch. In fact, say to yourself as you're getting ready to walk out the door to go meet your date, "It just doesn't get any better than THIS!" And believe it. Now, that's high self esteem.
Back up such a powerful statement by considering that everyone is uniquely beautiful. And as we've all heard many a time beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
Who Else Is All That?
It's a whole new way of looking at things that takes your dating self esteem to the max and makes you realize you're all that...and more!
Now, back up such a powerful statement by considering that everyone is uniquely beautiful. And as we've all heard many a time: beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
If you keep in mind that YOU ARE SOMEONE'S TYPE and then focus on whether the person you are dating is YOUR TYPE. When you can do that, you've got it made. Your self esteem will rise and YOU will actually start analyzing whether or not the person you are dating would be good for you rather than worrying whether or not he or she accepts and approves of you. It's a whole new way of looking at things that takes your dating self esteem to the max and makes you realize you're all that...and more!