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Are You A Good Candidate for A Threesome?

Are You A Good Candidate for A Threesome?

Are You A Good Candidate for A Threesome?

Advice on Planning A Menage Trois...and Tips for Recognizing If You Really Should

Advice Seeker :
Dear April Masini,
"

My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly four years and we are very much in love. However, our sex life has become really boring and I need some thrills before settling down! The passion and excitement we once had is now missing. A friend recently told me that a ménage à trois, or threesome, can spice up a stagnant sex life. How do I tell my boyfriend I want to have one? And do you have any tips on choosing someone to be in the ménage à trois with us? I really think it will spice up our relationship!
Sincerely,

I Want a 2+1 Now

"

April Masini's Advice :

Dear I Want a 2+1 Now, 

First, let me start by stating that threesomes are not for most people, and I don’t advocate them at all. If you have the need for sex with two other people or more, there’s probably something else going on in your life that you’re not acknowledging and that needs addressing.

That said, if you are going to do it, the best way to broach threesomes are:

  •  Before you’re married.
  • Before you’re engaged.
  • Before you’re serious about your girlfriend or boyfriend. Sexual threesomes between consenting adults are fine for some as long as they’re just about sex, but the reality is that for women, sex is never just about the sex, and for most men this is also true. Sex leads to emotional feelings, and it’s very difficult to have a conventional relationship with three people, so if you can keep your threesome confined to your “sowing your wild oats” part of your life, rather than introduce it to your committed, long-term relationship, you will have less problems in your relationship.


Choosing a good third party:

  • Choose someone who is physically and mentally healthy. This is key.
  • Choose someone who is very single. You don’t want an angry boyfriend or husband finding out about this and coming after you later. Same goes for an angry girlfriend or wife.
  • Be honest that this is not a relationship. It’s sport.


How to know if you’re ready for this type of experimentation

  • You’re not married or in a committed relationship.
  • You’re healthy in every way.
  • You’ve got a good support system around you.


What to do when things go wrong

  • Accept that things are not fixable.
  • End relationships with your third person.
  • Be prepared to lose your relationship with your second person.


Pick up a copy of my book, Romantic Date Ideas to find out how you can keep your sex life sizzling without turning to threesomes.

NOTE: Threesomes can damage relationships and should never be practiced when any of the parties involved have custody of children.