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Do You Have to Act Like A Porn Star to Keep Your Man?

Do You Have to Act Like A Porn Star to Keep Your Man?

Do You Have to Act Like A Porn Star to Keep Your Man?

Advice Seeker :
Dear April Masini,
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Is there any truth to the reports that religion's modesty mandate boosts marital sexual connections? It seems that everywhere I look there’s implied or suggested (or even explicit) sex, with women, moms, and non-moms alike, dressing and behaving as if they’re a porn star or a co-ed in a Girls Gone Wild video. Is this really what men find sexy and want in a wife? Do you have any advice on sex and modesty?

Signed,
Reluctant Porn Star
 

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April Masini's Advice :

Dear Reluctant Porn Star,

Nothing causes desire like scarcity. Businessmen know it. The Victorians figured it out. And Hollywood thrives on it.

American Sex Symbols Dress in Modest Attire or Uniforms

Yeah, sure there’s the Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Edition, but its real value is in the fact that it comes out only once a year -- not 12 times. For truly hot sex, there is no steamier vision than the librarian with the bun in her hair and the dorky glasses perched crookedly on her nose, wearing Victoria’s Secret lingerie beneath her to-the-chin blouse. Catholic school uniformed girls don’t become the subject of a Britney Spears sexy video for nothing. Their reserve, dedication and devotion makes for some pretty steamy fantasy about what goes on during their “down time”. And it’s no wonder that men in uniform – whether it’s military, firemen or police – are sex symbols across America.

The Religious Right is Right About Sexy Marriage

Surprisingly – or not -- some of politics' and religions' rightest rights are the sexiest sirens and sires because they know the secret to great sex: keep religion strong, keep social mores modest and conservative, and heat up the bedroom. Family values proponents who seem staunch and conservative with their religion, politics and voting practices, know exactly when to let their hair down. In private. Behind closed doors. At home. With the children safely snug in their own beds and bedrooms.
Exercising Strong Family Values Makes Time for Sex Scarce. Balancing Religion, Family, Community, Politics and Work Takes Time.

Not being able to swing from the chandeliers because there are children in the next room, and elderly neighbors next door doesn’t create sexual suppression. Instead, the limits create hot sex that isn’t necessarily had every night or every other night, or every third night – because there are other things that take precedence, like religion, family, work, etc. But when it is time for sex with a committed spouse, it’s an appreciated delicacy because it is not overly abundant.

Scarcity – And Strong Values (Religious or Otherwise) Creates Desire

One of the secrets to a hot sex life is respect for your mate out of the bedroom. And if a couple can keep themselves individually sexy, while keeping politics and religious codes and their family morals compatible and strong, they have the equation for sizzling sex down to an imperfect, but steamy science.

A sure way to flop in the bedroom is to have weak views on religion, politics, business – or anything else. Weak views coupled with immodest behavior may make a shock value splash at a party, but for consistently hot sex, it’s a cold bucket of water.