How to Buy an Extra Special Engagement Ring
Tips For Buying an Engagement Ring
Dear April Masini,
I want to propose to my girlfriend over the holidays but I want it to be extra special. It will be the second marriage for both of us, and I don't want the ring I get her to look anything like the one her first husband got her. Do you have any advice for how I can get her the most special engagement ring possible? I need some tips that will make her so happy and ensure that she says yes!"
Make it Special
April Masini's Advice :
Dear Make it Special,
The holidays are a big time for jewelry gifts and marriage proposals -- something about family, presents, and lots of eggnog makes men get down on one knee with a velvet box in hand.
Diamonds may be a girl's best friend, but they are absolutely NOT the only way to go when it comes to showing a commitment. In fact, with second and third marriages more popular than ever, brides don't want to receive the same kind of ring they got first time around. If the first wedding yielded a round diamond ring, a second wedding may call for a lacy diamond array in a ring or a colored diamond or a square shaped diamond. Bigger is always better when it comes to engagement rings, but there are ways to get around that if the guy's wallet isn't as fat as he'd like it to be.
Tips for picking the perfect engagement ring:
- Switch stones. Different stones work wonders for brides who want something different from husband number two or three -- or first time brides who have unique sensibilities. Emeralds, rubies, and sapphires are all terrific substitutes for traditional diamond engagement rings.
- More is good. A modest ring with matching chandelier earrings (for younger brides) or gem stone studs (for more mature brides) are lovely ways to show you care without having to compete with her friends' big, bigger, and biggest diamond rings.
- Out of the box thinking is great. For instance, give your hippie fiancé a diamond ankle bracelet -- or toe ring! Bracelets can be daring and stunning pieces that substitute for rings. Believe me, she'll feel like a million bucks if you give her a gorgeous diamond cuff bracelet as an engagement ring around her wrist.
- Adding on. First weddings can be financial pressures -- especially if the bride and groom don't have a lot of money, or are buying a house, starting a family, or have college loans to pay off. In these cases starting small and upgrading each year on the anniversary is a terrific tradition and investment -- any jewelry worth his stones will implement a frequent flyer program for the groom, boyfriend, or husband who wants to be a frequent buyer!