How To Dump Her Guide
How to Dump Her After...
Dear April Masini,
Help! I find myself getting stuck relationships with women I really don't want to be with because I'm not good at breaking up or saying I'm not interested, even with hookups and one-night-stands. Do you have any guidelines to can follow?"
Need a How To Dump Her Guide
April Masini's Advice :
Dear In Need of a Dumping Guide:
It's true, it can be hard to dump someone, especially if you have a heart and know they're into you. Here's a guideline you can follow to make the uncomfortable process a little easier.
How To Dump Her After:
A One Night Stand - Don't make it a big deal. One night isn't love. It's lust. If you don't want to see her again nip it in the bud. A pre-emptive strike is the best idea. Send her a note or a flower the next day that says: "Last night was fun. Now, back to my real life. Good luck in everything." If she wanted more, she'll be mad. If she wanted the same or less, she'll be glad. Again -- it was one night. Don't sweat it over this one.
A Short Term (one week to three months) Relationship - This should be a phone call. You can tell her, I'm really glad we had this time to get to know each other, but I don't want to waste your time -- I can tell we're not right for each other, and I wanted to give you the courtesy of letting you know that." Again, she'll be peeved if she wants more. If she doesn't, she'll be glad.
A Long Term Relationship - Face to face for sure. Public places are good because they discourage you're being swayed by break up sex. They also keep people on good behavior -- for the most part. Be clear on what it is you're doing. Don't leave room for discussion. Be prepared for her tears and/or anger. If she feels better yelling at you, let her. Keep your eye on the ball -- and that goal is to break up. Make it as clean a break as possible. Giving her an item that she had given you -- or a key to her apartment -- is a symbolic way of ending it.