How to Recognize a Liar
Clues of Deception - What To Look for To Know You Are Being Deceived
Dear April Masini,
I'm usually not the suspicious type, but I think my girlfriend is cheating on me. Last Tuesday evening she didn't answer her home or cell phone, and when she finally called me back the next day I got this long dramatic story about where she had been and why she couldn't call me right back. This wasn't the first time this has happened, and while I don't want to falsely accuse her, I don't want to be a fool either. Are there any tips you could give me on how to tell if she's lying?"
Sincerely, Tell the Truth
April Masini's Advice :
Dear Tell the Truth,
You bet! There are definitely some signs you can look for, here they are:
Liar, liar, pants on fire!
Here are the telltale signs that someone is being deceptive and telling you a lie:
Information Overload. You ask a simple question and get a complex, long, drawn out, (too) detailed explanation, with way more information than necessary. Liars try to convince by revealing too much information and too many "facts," rather than conveying a simple answer to a question.
Informational inconsistencies or lack of logic to statements, the stories seem too dramatic or unrealistic.
Physical discomfort -- blushing, sweating, leg jiggling, scratching a maddening itch.
Inappropriate body movement -- unexplained smirks, inadvertent shrugs, lack of eye contact or shifty eyes, and inappropriate smiles.
Changes in speech patterns -- hesitations, odd phrases, slips of the tongue, or quickened speech.
Repetition. Repeating questions can be sign of someone buying time to formulate her or his lie.
A strong feeling that something is not right. If your gut tells you that "something's up" with what someone is telling you, pay close attention to their behavioral patterns (how a person sits, gestures, looks at you, responds, talks, etc.), listen for inconsistencies in information and watch for too much information -- someone who is trying to convince you with too many facts, rather than convey.