Single Dads - Sole or Joint Custody of Kids?
Why More Fathers Are Seeking Sole Custody of Children
Dear April Masini,
Lately I've been meeting a lot more single fathers than I ever have before. A lot of times these dads were recently divorced and sought sole custody of their children, which I think is great! Have I just been noticing this more or am I right that more fathers are asking for sole custody of their children?"
Single Dads Are Hot
April Masini's Advice :
Dear Single Dads Are Hot,
You're definitely right that more than ever fathers are asking for sole custody of their kids after a divorce.
Why we're seeing more fathers asking for sole custody of the children during a divorce:
- There are more divorces than ever. Of those divorces, many of them are divorces in which fathers want sole custody of the kids. More divorces means more situations where fathers are asking for sole custody.
- Tactical divorce strategy. When a father has sole custody of the kids, not only does he not have to pay child support to the other parent, he may even collect child support from the other parent who is the mother. Many dads ask for sole custody of their children as a financial strategy.
- It is no longer taboo for fathers to have sole custody of their children, and because of that, more fathers are willing to ask for it. It used to be that mothers had sole and primary custody of the children in a divorce. That is still the prevalence, but there are lots of fathers who ask for sole custody, now, because it's more socially acceptable.
- Fathers telecommute and are better able to take care of their children in a way that only stay at home moms used to. Fathers are not all, solely, working long hours and traveling. More and more they are working from home with more flexibility making them more available to their kids.
Are more women willing to give up the kids along with the marriage?
It's pretty unusual for women to be willing to give up custody of their children, however, joint custody is now the norm in many states, and so many women expect joint custody when they go into a divorce -- not sole custody.